When a boy meets girl. Or when a girl meets a boy. You see, the commonly used phrase is "when a boy meets girl". Why?
Why must the dominance or rather importance be the boy? I mean, okay I really don't mean it in the sense that I'm being feminist and all. Or neither am I want to change the whole men dominance and all. But you know, this thought just disturbs me.
Evolutionary theory. Darwin suggested all those natural selection and the survival of the fittest. As I have told you readers much earlier that I don't believe in this theory. And my first thought was, "Wei mamat ni sick and gila tak superstitious". I actually thought he was an Atheist or something. Maybe he was. So yeah the theory whether he was an Atheist or not remains unnoticed. Or rather, malas nak tau pun.
So anyway, what does this evolutionary theory has got anything to do with "When XX meets XY?"
Social science said, the men tend to get more attracted to "fertile" women. Physical attractions kinda bull. You know, to keep men's generation in line, the creme among the creme. They mate with the best women and produce good future generations. Just to keep their "qualities" in line. They call it, a good reproduction.
And women tend to get attracted by a dominant figure. The one that has great power, strength and such. From all aspects. Think emotional support not ballistic rage. Think putting food on the table.
And when you see a couple in the car, you'll in a way get a shock when the wife (girlfriend) is driving rather than the husband (boyfriend).
Or it is okay to have a housewife but it is "out-of-the-norm" to have a stay-at-home dad?
And is it important to have an authoritarian figure often vested in the man of a family?
When this "secure"dominant figure diminishes along with time, is the woman suppose to stay and take over the dominance regardless of the theory and the social norms? Or it is important to stick these?
Are all these theories innate in us human and they serve us as the Holy Koran, or the Torah or the Bible?
As far as social science try to make sense, it all comes back to how we approach it and you know, handle the whole situation. I mean, it is okay for the wife to drive and the man sits next to her.
Who really cares who is behind the damn wheel? Ideally, the responsibility is to be shared equally right.
And who cares who make the first move in a relationship? Whether its girl meets boy or boy meets girl.